Hi,
Thanks for the question about finding the best online college for bachelor completion.
You do NOT sound arrogant. I assure you you are not the only 40 year old freshman (ha ha. Your situation is not so very uncommon, especially among IT and computer specialists. Many in your field trained in the trenches and on the job rather than completing a formal bachelor's degree.
But you're right -- at a certain point not having that degree can make it hard to get new interviews or switch jobs.
Here is my advice ...
First, you can probably take most of those "old" credits or couple of years of college you completed long ago and transfer these toward an online bachelors degree TODAY. Probably you took mostly general ed or liberal arts courses like Western Civilization, English, History, Psychology, and basic math.
SEE: 5 Ways to Earn College Credit for Career Life Experience
www.geteducated.com/online-degree-financial-aid/cutting-online-university-cost/145-online-life-experience-degree/
Transferring Old Credits & Online bachelor degree completion ...
www.geteducated.com/online-degree-financial-aid/cutting-online-university-cost/257-online-college-credits
What you need is an online bachelor degree completion program that will a) give you maximum credit for those old courses + b) allow you maximum flexibility to earn college degree credit for your career experience. I am going to imagine that you may hold or have held a number of professional certifications in IT / computers or that you could quickly study and pass some competency exams in computers and IT as well as perhaps business/management.
There are 3 or 4 online colleges that might help you the most in maximizing your opportunity to earn credits/courses toward an online IT BS or business degree.
SEE: The Best Real Online Colleges that Award Life Experience
www.geteducated.com/diploma-mills-police/life-experience-college-degree/162-is-a-life-experience-online-degree-a-scam
I do not know which of the colleges mentioned in the above article might be best for you but in your situation I'd look at bachelor completion programs first and explore where and how you can most rapidly convert your career knowledge into college degree credits, especially in the IT/computers major area.
All the Best
Vicky